Positive, inspirational and influential – great choices
Today I am on my positive communications soapbox. Whether reading CVs or interviewing I’m frequently surprised by what I call negative language. It crops up in meetings and discussions too, although I respect that we often come together to express our opinions and differing points of view. And I get that we won’t all want to be positive all of the time. I value difference and I’m not suggesting that all potential colleagues should write CVs or answer interviewer’s questions to a single formula – I’m simply seeking more inspirational language.
When I ask candidates about their interest in a particular role or the business I’m helping, I’m after positive responses which focus on that business and their passion to join the team. All too often I hear about their current roles and organisations not delivering on their promises or valuing their contribution. Hey presto we’re negative and we’re in the weeds already: a missed opportunity to demonstrate passion and positivity for my role.
For many this begins with an ill-conceived CV and bland phrases snatched from shaky job descriptions. Beginning to get the picture? I’m throwing down the gauntlet – when did you last take a long hard look at your CV and put it to the positivity (positive language) test? It’s time to think achievements, ambition and accountability rather than responsibility and boredom. What are your unique selling points? Is your CV convincing and influential. What can you change?
While we’re on the topic of positivity, here are a few ideas to practise. Frequently I hear friends or colleagues complimenting each other on a choice of outfit, “I love that dress” or “great shoes”. Next time try, “you look great in that outfit, it’s a fabulous colour on you, great choice” and see the person’s reaction. You’ve just made their day by putting them in that dress or those shoes and acknowledging their talents. Oh and try to remember that “old” colleagues may prefer to be known as longstanding or previous colleagues!
Then there’s the late arrival at an event or meeting and the endless explanations about traffic before an overwhelming apology to further delay proceedings. You’re late, slide into your seat calmly and simply thank colleagues for waiting. Trust me, they’ll hardly notice the slight delay and admire your composure.
By now you’ll have guessed that this piece is about turning things around, seeking out some positives rather than focusing on the things which aren’t going quite so well. Starting with a new vocabulary, a bit more self-praise and promotion maybe it’s time to do things a bit differently. Let’s chat about how I can help you.
